Part 1 of my ‘Meeting the Summer Hols with Mindfulness’ post was a look at my attempt to be more flexible day-to-day and to respond to the needs of the children with empathy instead of ploughing on with our my plans regardless.
Looking back at the first couple of weeks I think this has gone OK. Last Wednesday we had planned to go to a Museum in town but we ended up going to the library and the park instead as the kids seemed tired after a trip to the farm on Tuesday and swimming on Monday. Swimming was a last minute decision based on my son wanting to show his 16 year old cousin what he’d learned in his lesson in the morning and it was a good chance (while I had help) to get the twins in the pool too so I guess this was me being flexible.
And guess what? It all worked out well. Twin 2 particularly LOVED her dip – jumping in A LOT. Also, I didn’t panic when they both started to climb out of the beloved twin float we’ve been using with them since they were 5 months old. Instead I realised that my niece was more than capable of being in charge of one little lady, me with the other and as we were in the teaching pool the eldest could always touch the bottom and had his ‘noodle’ with him – phew!!! I didn’t even ruminate unnecessarily what a waste of time it had been spending about 20 minutes blowing the damn float up :-)!
Anyway, I have still packed rather a lot of outings into our days and so still want to get better at home entertainment (the good old fashioned sort that doesn’t involve screens!).
In my bio on Twitter (@mummy_mindful, follow me here ) and on Facebook (please feel free to like my page here if you want to read lots of interesting articles and posts from other people that I regularly share) I describe myself as a mum, wife, teacher and sometimes just ME and so I thought it may be good to set out some secondary intentions for the summer holidays based on these different areas of my life. You never know you may wish to copy one or adapt one.
- My Mindful MUM intention: build 3 minute breathing spaces (described further in this post) into the day. This will benefit me and the little ones as I find the practice relatively straightforward to fit into my day and also still extremely restorative. It will probably fit best while the girls are napping. My eldest is aware that ‘Mummy meditates’ so he will be happy to amuse himself, or even better may sometimes do it with me!
- My Mindful WIFE intention: ensure I don’t just jump straight on to the laptop when the kids are in bed and the chores finished. Sit, chat, listen and find out about the hubby’s day and tell him about ours too. Ensure Saturday night still remains an NO devices night and maybe add another night to this too. Book a date night!
- My Mindful TEACHER intention: I desperately need to spend some time de-cluttering my classroom and office (both at home and at school). As soon as I walk into these spaces and there are papers everywhere I am increasingly aware that my mood changes for the worse. Tackling this now will have a positive impact on the coming year.
- My Mindful ME intention: I feel like my own mindfulness practices has slipped a bit of late. I would like to get back to doing formal meditations most days and would like to lengthen the usual ones of 10 – 15 mins to 15 – 20 mins. I am also excited about booking myself on to some sort of refresher course or a weekend day retreat.
I realise that these are fairly personal intentions but I wonder if they strike a chord with anyone else who is reading them.
Do please let me know what your intentions are over the next few weeks (and if they have a link to mindfulness all the better!).
These are great ideas. I like that you were trying to respond to the kids needs rather than just going ahead with plans. It seems like it worked. I too need to de-clutter my work spaces in my classroom and at home. I also need to make more effort to have downtime and time to chat or reflect. It’s all too easy to put the computer on and get caught up in blogging stuff! Thanks for sharing your ideas #thelist
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Ah thanks so much for the kind words and support – yes I just find starting off with a clear classroom puts me in the right mindset for Sept (but let’s not think about it just yet!). Thanks so much for commenting. x
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I go back a week today unfortunately 😬
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I like the idea of just going with it. Adding a little meditation to my day would be nice too x
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Good for you and great to read more about mindfulness, it’s building quite a following now, with good reason, I don’t know where I would be if I hadn’t stumbled across this kind of practice, nowadays people don’t make time to sit still in a quiet space, and sometims that’s all we need to reboot! #EatSleepBogRT
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So pleased that you find Mindfulness so helpful too – it’s so good to spread the word. I agree re the reboot. Thanks for commenting. x
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I need a little bit more of this in my life. #AnythingGoes
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You certainly do strike a chord! I think it’s so important to consider the mood and energy levels of the children before ploughing on with plans, and I also love your idea of being a mindful wife – this is the part that always seems to come last for me, so I’m definitely going to work on that. #eatsleepblogrt
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I know our poor partners do tend to be pushed to the bottom of the priority list! Good luck with your intentions and thanks for conmenting x
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Iut poor partners do tend to be pushed to the bottom of the priority list! Good luck with your intentions and thanks for conmenting x
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I love the 3 minute breathing space idea and the Mindful Wife. I’m guilty of logging on straight away #ablogginggoodtime
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3 min breathing space safe so helpful and totally doable in a busy person’s life. Thanks for commenting x
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These are really good and inspiring. Thank you!
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Ah thank you for commenting! X
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I really enjoyed this. I think I probably need to start practicing mindfulness and focussing on myself a little more. It’s great that you are responding to your kids mood and needs and adjusting your plans accordingly. #ablogginggoodtime
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So pleased you enjoyed the post. Let me know how you get on exploring Mindfulness. Thanks for commenting. X
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Very good tips! I so relate to number 2 – jumping on the laptop when the kids are in bed. I now have my weeks organised so can fit more in, including me time 🙂 #EatSleepBlogRt
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I need to get more organised too! V impressed with your schedule that you outlined in your recent post. Thanks for commenting x
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I love the idea of having 3 minute meditations, I’m definitely going to try that. My daughter starts Kindergarten on Monday, and I’m hoping I might be able to restart my meditation practise. I used to meditate for hours at one stage in my life! But I think I’ve meditated about once since she was born almost 5 years ago! #ablogginggoodtime
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That sounds familiar! Good luck with Kindergarten….and getting back into meditating! 😀 Thanks for commenting. X
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Glad to hear its all going well after your last post. Mindful Wife is very important in our house – my husband has made the no blogging after 8pm rule when he is home. Works for us! I do need to work more on mindful me though… #EatSleepBlogRT
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That is brilliant – I wish I could be so disciplined…..8pm and I’m usually only just starting to think about blogging! Thanks for conmenting. X
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I like the idea of a 3 minute breathing space. I’m going to read more about that! #thelist
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Do – they are fab! X
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These are great goals, I love the way you have one for each “role” in your life. I love the fact you and your hubby have a device free night, I bet that makes a huge difference
Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes 🙂
Debbie
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Thanks Debbie – I really appreciate your kind words and feedback and am just so sorry it’s taken me so long to show this! Thanks for commenting. xx
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Definately mindful wife point hits a chord. I try really hard to leave the tech alone until I have sat down and listened to my partner. I think he feels it sometimes that we don’t get to hang out in the same way but he does appreciate what I am doing on the blog though. Thanks for linking up to #abrandnewday
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So nice that he appreciates your blog. Thanks so much for commenting (sorry I’ve been tardy responding) xx
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I’m booking a date night with my husband as we speak! Long overdue! Thank you for the reminder! #abrandnewday
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Ooo hope you had fun. Thanks for commenting. xx
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There are some great ideas here – we all need some breathing space and I think its a great idea to be conscious of not jumping straight onto the computer too!
Thanks for linking to #ablogginggoodtime
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Pleased you like the ideas, thanks for commenting x
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